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3/7/12

PREVIEW THE DOCUMENTARY "PRAY THE DEVIL BACK TO HELL"

Tribeca Film Festival press conference for Pray the devil back to hell. this year's Best Documentary award winner. the film is about a two and a half year protest staged by Christian and Muslin women against the Charles Taylor regime. The women brought about an end to the war and the election of a woman president.

MESSAGE FROM HELENE GAYLE ABOUT MARCH 8TH MARKS INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY

March 8th marks International Women's Day. In partnership with the Girl Scouts of America and ITVS CARE invites you to join them for an online screening of "Pray the Devil Back to Hell." The documentary shares the story of how a group of women in Liberia took on the violent warlords and the corrupt regime of Charles Taylor to win peace for their country. The leader of the group, Leymah Gwobee, won the 2011 Nobel Peace Prize. Tune in, take action and learn more at http://www.care.org/iwd
In some places in sub-Saharan Africa the risk of dying in pregnancy and childbirth is 1 in 14. This high rate of maternal mortality is driven by numerous social and structural factors described in this video. In broad collaboration with communities, national, and global partners, CARE is working to help millions of women and their families improve their health and the health of their children. Learn more about CARE's work by visiting http://www.care.org.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BI SOPHIA ANDREW...SHOGA LANGU LA UKWELI...

My Birthday present, white roses from my 3 beautiful daughters Maryam,Munirah and Maleekah I love u my beautiful girls.
happy birthday my dear. l like the flowers.

Thank u
     Happy Birthday....shoga...subiri yangu yajaaaa leo...

TODAY MESSAGE FROM MY MENTOR

Governor hotel Portland
It is my privilege to help you, Shalwa, and my team will help you all the way.  That is why I absolutely love Legal Shield.  I hold your decision before the Lord, and I now ask Him to Bless you Tremendously, in this your decision, so that you Prosper, and Teach others, how to Prosper.  God Bless you, with Wisdom, Knowledge, and understanding, so that you Excel, in your Venture.  Amen!
Shalwa Mende
Amen thuma Amen... Portland najaaaa...You have to come to the meeting at the Hilton Hotel, 1750 Rockville Pike, Twinbrook. MD, Thursday, 03/08/2012, as my guest, and they will explain this better than I can. You have to see it to believe. I have never been this happy.
We have a very important meeting, coming up, at the Sheraton Annapolis, MD, on 03/11/2012, a Sunday, from 3-4pm. I will love to have you, or your relatives that want to get in, as my Guests, and if they want to stay on for the rest of the meeting, (which will be for us, who are already members, and associates), they will have that choice, but it will cost them $20. The first hour is free. I will have a car, so if anyone needs a ride, I can pick them up, at the Rockville, Metro Station, at 11:00-11:30am. This is all for now. Thanks

 Amyna Gama
Mola analeta shani zake
 aminaaa yarabillaalaminaa
 ‎@Sweetbaby...thank you dear..
@Amy mdogo wangu...taratibu akuna vikwazo...dream mpaka dream yako itakapo tokea...@Mama Mashauzi...jike la "SIMBA" linajua kutafuta tuu....watanijua mimi nani.....Ukimuona Simba mjini ujue katumwa huyoooo hahahaaaaa..Nikikosa nashukuru nikipata na mshukuru "Subhaanaa Wa Taala" ndio silaa yangu siku zote...na umpa ampendaye siku zote..wakiziba waki chimba mizizi watajisumbua bure.....wa moja ni wa moja na wa mbili ni wambili....."na atakaye soma message hii, ikamchoma shutuuu lako hili" "Be-My-Guest" at the Sheraton Annapolis, in MD, on 03/11/2012, from 3-4pm.

3/6/12

YES, CHILD-FREE OBSERVER, MY KID IS BEING A REAL PILL (BRATTY KID). BUT IF YOU WANT TO TELL ME HOW TO FIX IT, YOU MIGHT GET A FAT LIP. OOPS!!!

Got an opinion about my bratty kids? Keep it to yourself.
Look, I know my kids have their moments. I know they can be obnoxious and naughty and defiant ... I know they get tired and crabby and bored. And trust me, I am only too aware that my little darlings can be total brats sometimes. Here’s the rub: I don’t want YOU pointing it out.

It’s like when I unload on my husband about my sister and the ridiculous fight we had. I can call her every name in the book and tell him I never want to see her again ... but if he's smart, he'll keep mum. Why? Because it’s MY sister!
Same goes for the strangers in the restaurant or the mall or the grocery store. The reason you can’t say a word to me about my bratty kid is because he’s MY brat. And when you question his behavior, secretly, deep down, I know you are questioning me and my ability to raise a decent, well-behaved human being ... and that’s what gets my back up. Way up.
Let’s face it: It’s not as if I’d be “right,” no matter what I did. With so many studies and beliefs, parenting styles and classes, there is no way on the planet that I could possibly discipline my child in a manner that would please everyone, so I just do what I think will work and hope no one is watching.
That’s easy enough at home, but in public places, parents are all under a microscope. As I enter a restaurant, infant carrier on one arm and my 2-year-old on the other, I may as well have a squirrel on my head. The stares alone are enough to put me into fight mode and I can just hear the remarks flying through your heads as you envision the torture you will have to endure sitting next to “those kids”.
As soon as Max utters a groan at the food choices or infant Alex lets out a squeak to let me know he’d like to be picked up, a thousand visual daggers fly in my direction. I’m being judged by a jury of been-there-done-thats and I’d better not mess this up.
So I take my baby out of the carrier to feed him, and I’m judged. I put him down and let him cry for a minute, and I’m judged. I tell Max he cannot have ice cream until he finishes half his dinner which makes him throw a spoon, and I’m judged. My husband raises his voice to get Max to settle down, and we are judged. I take Max outside to talk to him about manners and he is wiping tears when we return, and I’m judged. I walk the baby to get him to sleep while I’m eating, and I am judged. Then, as we walk away from the table, Max says a cheerful “goodbye” to every single person in the place ... and you all smile and wave at him as if nothing happened. And I am left feeling the guilt … and the judgment.
It’s that judgment that makes us defend our parenting. It’s the snarky comments that turns us into angry, defensive Moms gone wild. So the next time you see me and my boys out and about, if you should happen to catch us in a moment of “imperfection” and you feel compelled to tell me what’s wrong with my kids … please don’t. Because I'm their mom, and they're MY brats!

Tara Kennedy-Kline is the author of "Stop Raising Einstein, Discover the Unique Brilliance in Your Child…and You!" She also blogs at www.multilevelmom.com.

3/5/12

MESSAGE FROM "MY MENTOR" "THE 101 REASONS WHY (WE ALL) NEED LEGAL SHIELD.

Here are the 101 reasons why you (we all) need Legal Shield.  When you promote this product, you help another family to have access to this coverage, and when we become members, we then have the Members' Only Privilege, to become a Jr Associates, and to start making money;
 ".............."
  THE 101 REASONS
1. You don't understand the difference between a trust and a will.
2. You don't have an up-to-date will.
3. Family members challenge your parent's will.
4. Your landlord raises rent in violation of your verbal agreement.
5. You are selected for an audit.
6. Your parents die and leave you executor of their estate.
7. You are tired of hidden cell phone fees.
8. You do not have a retirement savings plan.
9. You lose your personal identification.
10. You receive a speeding ticket.
11. You are buying or selling your home.
12. Your driver's license is suspended.

13. You don't understand your health insurance plan or new legislation.
14. Your teenager is accused of shoplifting.
15. You decide to change your name.
16. Your new washing machine doesn't wash.
17. Creditors threaten to take action against you for your ex-spouse's debts.
18. A neighbor or school reports you for child abuse.
19. You adopt a child.
20. A friend or neighbor is injured on your property.
21. You need child support enforced.
22. A friend owes you money and files bankruptcy.
23. A caller demands money or damaging information will be released.
24. Your car is damaged by a hit-and-run driver.
25. You accidentally back over your neighbor's garbage can.
26. A hairdresser damages your hair with harsh chemicals.
27. Your car is repossessed unjustly.
28. You are subpoenaed or served with legal papers.

29. You are called to jury duty.
30. Your long drive off the tee injures another player.
31. You need a lease agreement reviewed.
32. Your son is injured in a football game.
33. A neighbor trips over a rake in your yard.
34. A jeweler sells you defective merchandise.
35. A car dealership gains illegal access to your credit history.
36. You are hit by a bottle at a baseball game.
37. A tenant falls down stairs and sues you.
38. You need help with credit card liability resolution.
39. You are injured when you slip on a wet floor in a public building.
40. Your livestock trample a neighbor's garden.
41. Your neighbor's dog barks for hours every night.
42. Your teenager gets a speeding ticket.
43. Your landlord enters your apartment without permission.
44. Your child throws a baseball through a neighbor's car window.
45. You don't have a Living Will or Medical Power of Attorney.
46. Your boat is damaged while in storage.

47. Your landlord refuses to refund your cleaning deposit.
48. You lose an expensive watch in a hotel and the manager denies liability.
49. A speeding car nicks your bumper when your car was parked on the street.
50. A merchant refuses to honor a guarantee.
51. You have an accident driving your friend's boat.
52. Your spouse claims a right to your earnings.
53. A record club sends merchandise after you cancel your membership.
54. You are refused service at a restaurant.
55. A property manager refuses to rent to you.
56. You are denied credit for no apparent reason.
57. An online auction goes sour.
58. The repair shop threatens small claims court for money you don't owe.
59. Your car insurance is cancelled when your teenager has an accident.
60. Your child needs special education in public school.
61. You made a sizable gift to charity.
62. Angry words result in a slander law suit.
63. You need a patent for an invention.
64. You need a copyright for your manuscript.
65. You are wrongly accused of committing a crime.
66. Your right to privacy has been invaded.
67. Your car is vandalized in a parking lot.
68. A postal carrier slips on your unshoveled walk and breaks his or her leg.

69. You have questions about escrow in a home purchase.
70. You're stopped for speeding and a passenger is in possession of marijuana.
71. Your teenager wrecks the car and a passenger is injured.
72. You care for your elderly parents.
73. You receive disability.
74. You are cheated by a door-to-door salesman.
75. A repairman charges more than a given estimate.
76. A creditor tries illegal collection tactics.
77. An accident results in a personal injury.
78. You are scheduled to appear in small claims court.
79. Your new house has bad plumbing and a leaky roof.
80. You take a vacation and your room has a view of the trash dumpster.
81. A minor is caught breaking into your home.
82. You have a fender bender while driving a friend's car.
83. You have liability questions in launching a new business.
84. You have a question about an easement on your property.
85. Your neighbor's dog bites your child.
86. You have a property line dispute over a newly installed fence.
87. You're asked to testify as a witness to a crime.
88. You need a premarital agreement.

89. You're buying or selling a car.
90. Your child's school demands a drug or alcohol test.
91. Your bank sends a foreclosure notice after one house payment is late.
92. A retail store won't accept the return of defective merchandise.

93. A repairman won't stand behind his work.
94. A trespasser is caught poaching on your land.
95. You are leasing property.
96. You receive a letter from a creditor and it is not your debt.
97. A bank reports bad credit activity unjustly.
98. You need advice concerning a divorce.
99. You own your own small business.
100. You can't make heads or tails out of the new tax forms.
101. Your spouse uses physical force against you.


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KWA NIABA YA KIPENZI CHA ROHO YANGU BABA YANGU MZAZI (MOHSIN MENDE) TUNATOA SHUKRAN ZETU ZA ZATI KWA WALE WOTE WALIOFANIKISHA KISOMO CHA SIKU (40) CHA MKEWE "BI'AZAMA YUSSUF ULEDY" MAMA MLEZI WETU KILICHO FANYIKA JIJI DAR-ES-SALAAM, TANZANIA 03/04/2012

Kila sifa njema ni za Mwenye-ezi-Mungu (S.H.W) na sala, visomo, na salamu zimfikiye Mtume wake Muhammad (S.A.W) pamoja na ahli zake maswahaba wake watukufu Amma ba'd...Leo Ma'Azama yupo mbele ya Ufalme wa Subhahaana...na amali zake...na kesho tutafuata nyao....Mwenyezi msamehe yeye na sisi tulio hai leo na kwesho mbele ya aki....

Shukran za dhati ziwafikiye wote walio udhulia kisomo chetu..na msikiti ulio soma kisomo cha wanaume na bila kuwa sahau wanamama walio fanikisha kisomo hiki kutokea Kigoma.Bin Mende walioudhulia kisomo..Mdogo wa Marehe Ma'Salima..shukran kwa kumkariza baba yetu siku arubaini na ndugu na jamaa kutokea Kigoma...Pia bila kuwa sahau wamama wa kimanyema walio funga kisomo chetu kwa kusoma "KITABU KITUKUFU" kwa muda wa siku tatu kabra siku ya kisomo chetu...Pia tumewasamehe wale walio pitiwa na masaa. Kisomo saa 4:00pm nyiye mmesituka saa 8:00pm. Nyoooooo mashuzi yenu mtabakia nayo wenyewe. Si kosa lenu bari madua yetu yaliwafanya mpitiwe na wakati....mlipozinduka kisomo chetu tushamaliza...sasa hiyo nyama ya kuchoma mliotaka kuchoma kwenye "itima ya kipenzi mleze wetu Ma'Azama" kachomeni nyumbani kwenu. Na fikiri yule mbuzi mweupe wa saa saba ya mchana 2011 mwaka jana akufanya kitu.......
BAADA YA KISOMO BAGAMOYO MBUZI HUU AWAKUWEZA KUMCHINJA KWANI ALIKUWA AKITOA MACHOZI KAMA BINADAMU. JAMANI HAYA NI MAKUBWA MADOGO YANA NAFUU.
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 SUBHAANA WA TAALA...ALHAMDU LILLAHI RABIL A'LAMIN
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"DON'T RAISE A CHEATER" FIND OUT HOW TO KEEP YOUR KIDS FROM CHEATING ON TESTS"


Kid at desk(Photo: Courtesy of Parenting)

Credit to by Melissa Balmain  Parenting
When Parents CheatSure, it's important to sit down with your kids over their homework and get them excited about learning. But teachers can always tell if you go over the line. Among the practices that drive them crazy:
  • Masterminding your kids' projects
  • Completing their homework, instead of helping them understand it
  • Fudging their reading logs
  • Typing their homework for them (unless they have physical disabilities)
  • Dictating answers to them
From kindergarten through about second grade, cheating remains old-school, teachers say: copying a classmate's homework, peeking over someone's shoulder during a spelling test. By third grade, kids might add Internet plagiarism to their repertoires. The best way to keep your child from joining in? Start now -- in the elementary years before cheating becomes truly widespread. "You want to get good behavioral habits established while moral reasoning is developing and deepening," says Thomas Lickona, Ph.D., author of Raising Good Children and Character Matters -- How to Help Our Children Develop Good Judgment, Integrity, and Other Essential Virtues. "There's research to suggest that even young children are more sophisticated and morally observant than we might give them credit for." In other words: It's the perfect time to turn CHEAT into TEACH.
Help Them Get It
Use all the reasons you can think of," Lickona says -- and tell them to your child often. For instance, you might say, Everyone knows that cheating is synonymous with stealing and lying, but do you realize how unfair it is to those who don't do it, or how it will affect your relationships with friends, teachers, parents? Ask your child how she'd feel if she'd worked really hard on a paper and another kid got the same grade by cheating. Above all, Lickona advises, tell your child that cheating breaches and damages trust -- his teacher's, his classmates', and yours. "The most powerful deterrent for kids is feeling that they've violated a relationship," he says.
Explain, too, that a cheater also hurts himself. When you cheat, you don't learn. Since lessons build on each other, cheating now means you won't understand later material, either. And, of course, if you're caught, you might receive a zero on paper, say, or have to answer to the principal.

Lay Off, MomThe main reason kids cheat as they get older, experts say, is pressure to get top marks. This pressure comes from both parents ("You won't get into a good high school or college if you get C's!") and teachers ("We have a very important test coming up for our school!").
"I've had kids who get money or some other reward from their parents for having really good grades," says Teresa Burke, a third-grade teacher in Blacksburg, VA, and a mom of two. Such emphasis can give students the idea that getting an A -- rather than earning one -- is what matters. So why not cheat?

Be a follower...
...of the rules, that is. If you want your kids to believe that cheating is wrong, think twice before you park in that handicapped space without a permit or order from the 10-and-under menu for your 11-year-old. And be sure to point out your honest behavior to them and connect it to being honest at school ("I could save time by parking in that space, but it wouldn't be fair to people who really need it -- just like it wouldn't be fair to your classmates if you saved time by copying their homework"). "We send our children messages by our own behaviors, and children take in a lot more than we even realize, consciously and unconsciously," says Gary Niels, a Pittsburgh headmaster who has studied cheating while on a fellowship at Columbia University's Teacher's College.
Kids may be influenced by other people's dishonesty, too -- from classmates to people in the news -- so be on the lookout for "teachable moments" outside your family. "Ask your child, 'Who wants to end up like Barry Bonds or Mark McGwire?'" says Lickona, recalling both ballplayers' scandals over steroid use. "'These guys were brought to shame and have no reason to hold their heads up anymore. Bernie Madoff not only hurt thousands of people [through his Ponzi scheme] but brought great disgrace to his family.'"

Keep it honest
Research suggests that school honor codes -- which discourage cheating and other poor behaviors -- work best when students have a hand in creating and enforcing them. By the same token, Lickona says, letting your kids help write and maintain a family honor code could be a great way to curb cheating. (Sample language: "In our family, we don't lie, cheat, or steal; we take responsibility for our actions; we do our best in everything.") Another helpful tool is Lickona's "Ethics-in-Action Quiz", which gives kids questions to mull over when they're deciding whether something they want to do is unethical. Among the questions: "Would I want someone to do this to me?" "Does this go against what my conscience tells me is right?" "Would I want this made public through Facebook, YouTube, texting, etc., and seen by my teachers, parents, employers, or future spouse?"
If your child admits to cheating or is caught doing so, let her know how disappointed you are -- but also encourage her to tell you why she resorted to it so you can work together to find a better way. Does your child feel strapped for time because of after-school activities? Insist she drop one or two -- at least for now. Is she having trouble understanding material in class? Perhaps you can explain it or find a teacher or tutor who can. Is she feeling pressured by other kids to let them copy her work? Explain that this would be like helping them steal something -- and coach her in ways to respond. The bottom line when it comes to curbing cheating, Anderman says, is never to leave kids feeling helpless. "Make them feel you're their partner."

3/3/12

RAPPER-TURNED-FASHION DESIGNER KANYE WEST HAS PLACED HIS FIRST PAIR OF WOMEN'S SHOES ON SALE IN PARIS, FRANCE. FOR ALMOST $ 6,000

Rapper-turned-fashion designer Kanye West has placed his first pair of women's shoes on sale in Paris, France. for almost $6,000.
KANYE WEST & GIUSEPPE ZANOTTI WOMEN’S HEELS AVAILABLE FOR PURCHASE
West debuted his women's wear clothing collection, the DW Kanye West line, at Paris Fashion Week last October, and his models strutted down the runway wearing ivory stilettos made of calf leather and embroidered pearls specially and created by West and famed shoe designer Giuseppe Zanotti.

Now the fashion-forward footwear has gone on sale to the general public, but only fans with deep pockets will be able to pick up a pair. Store owners at Colette Paris have listed the heels at $5,885
And even singer Jordin Sparks said she can't justify the steep price for the shoes.

She tweeted, "I want those shoes Ye designed for Giuseppe Zanotti. Too pricey! Id [sic] have a panic attack! They are amazing though!"
West is due to return to the French catwalk next week to show off his latest designs for his 2012 autumn/winter collection as part of Paris Fashion Week.
The rapper has previously dabbled in footwear design by collaborating with Louis Vuitton and Nike for his own sneaker lines.

3/2/12

"SECRETS OF LADY GAGA'S NEW LIQUID DIET

And it's no wonder Gaga's energy levels are a concern. Her new tour -- "The Born This Way Ball" -- is an ambitious 110 show tour that kicks off April 27 in Seoul, South Korea, and is scheduled to take the Grammy-winning star all over the world, including Asia, North America, Latin America and Europe, ending sometime in 2013.
So what exactly will she be eating while she trots across the globe performing songs like "Born This Way," "Edge of Glory," "You and I" and "Marry the Night"?
"She likes berries," Pasternak confessed. "She likes the fiber in berries. They are low calorie, colorful and carry a lot of antioxidants, so we've been doing a lot of creative, sweet things with all berries like blackberries, strawberries, boysenberries and cranberries. We use nonfat Greek yogurt as a base and just go to town. We've also been doing a lot of pureed soups like broccoli, cauliflower and asparagus."

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Sheikh Othman Maalim anatukumbusha ukweli ambao mara kwa mara tunausahau... Dunia sio mahala petu, Dunia inatuaga... Akhera inatukabili... Vitendo vyetu hapa duniani vitasababisha twende peponi au motoni...

Nawatakia kila la kheri katika Ijumaa hii. Mwenyezi awa samehe wazazi wetu nasi pia.....Sheikh na kubaliana nawe kweli neno lako "mtoto urithi fitina, umbea, uchawi, matusi, na udhuruma kutoka kwa wazazi wake"

3/1/12

" YOU CAN BUY HAPPINESS, BUT NOT WITH MONEY. AN INVESTMENT IN GRATITUDE PAYS VALUABLE DIVIDENDS, ESPECIALLY WHEN TIMES ARE TOUGH."

woman holding a thank you card(Photo: Courtesy of Rodale)
Credit to Jeffrey Rossman, PhD

Many people today are struggling to make do with less. What's the secret to finding happiness when you're coping with loss? If we observe people who know how to be happy, we find that they make a point of being grateful for whatever they have. And it's not related to how much material wealth you may or may not possess. A growing body of research has demonstrated that grateful people are happier than their less-grateful counterparts, regardless of their income level.
THE DETAILS: Gratitude has also been found to be a powerful antidote to depression. Martin Seligman, PhD, a pioneer in the positive psychology movement, and colleagues at University of Pennsylvania delivered gratitude instructions to 50 severely depressed visitors to a self-help website. They recommended that individuals take time each day to write down three things that went well that day, and why they thought so. Fifteen days later, 94 percent of the 50 individuals reported feeling significantly less depressed. Their scores on a widely used depression inventory dropped by 50 percent -- equivalent to improvement seen with medication treatment or psychotherapy, although the latter interventions generally take longer to work. Individuals in a placebo-controlled group who wrote down three childhood memories each day did not experience an improvement in their depressive symptoms. More important, the effects for the group practicing gratitude lasted for a full 6 months. The researchers repeated the same study several months later with a different group of depressed Web users and obtained substantially the same results. Seligman's group also found that writing in a gratitude journal had a mood-boosting effect for depressed patients in a 12-week therapy group, as well as for patients in individual therapy.

WHAT IT MEANS: Cultivating gratitude is a powerful way to overcome adversity and depression. By choosing to focus on your blessings, rather than ruminating on your disappointments and deficits, you nourish positive feelings about yourself, your life, and others. As an ongoing attitude, gratitude will help you cultivate happiness throughout your life. It is no accident that the individuals in Seligman's study maintained their gains long after they completed the online intervention. Gratitude is habit-forming. The number of things you can be grateful for is infinite. As a happiness resource, gratitude is free and inexhaustible.
There are many ways you can weave gratitude into the fabric of your life:

  • Keep a gratitude journal. At the end of each day, write down three things you experienced that you feel grateful for. They could be as varied as the buds appearing on the trees in your yard and appreciation for the kindness extended to you by a stranger. As you chronicle the things you feel grateful for, make a point of not repeating any of the prior entries in your journal.
  • Write and deliver a gratitude letter to someone in your life whom you have not properly thanked for what they have given to you. You can deliver the letter in person or read it over the telephone. It's a powerful experience, for you as well as for the person you're thanking.
  • Say grace before each meal to express your thanks for the food you are about to eat.
    Use whatever language you're comfortable with, whether religious, spiritual, or just an informal expression of gratitude for the meal.
  • Make a point of thanking anyone who serves you in any way -- the cashier at the checkout counter, your child for clearing the dinner table, the tech-support person who helped you fix your computer.
  • Take gratitude breaks during the course of each day to simply appreciate the myriad blessings, large and small, that are present in your life.

Jeffrey Rossman, PhD, is a Rodale.com advisor and director of life management at Canyon Ranch in Lenox, MA. His column, "Mind-Body-Mood Advisor," appears weekly on Rodale.com.

YOUR'TOXIC FRIENDS' ARE ACTUALLY TOXIC

Woman lying on bed(Photo: Courtesy of Men's Health)
Credit to Cassie Shortsleeve
"We think our bodies construe negative social interactions as stressors which create higher levels of harmful inflammatory proteins," says Jessica Chiang, lead researcher, and graduate student at UCLA.
The solution is easy: Cut out toxic people in your life. "Purging these relationships from your life could lower levels of these harmful proteins," Chiang says. Here are three friends you must deal with:
The Fighter
This guy picks to fight every battle -- and you've gotten used to it. Constantly bickering with people can lead to an increase in cortisol, which suppresses the inflammatory processes and inhibits the creation of proinflammatory proteins, the study found. And if you're wondering: Find out why on Earth he's so angry.
The Competitor
There's nothing wrong with a little healthy competition -- it keeps you in check. But the guy you run with on the weekends who's constantly one-upping you, and your work buddy who's always sucking up to your clients? Make some distance. Both leisure and work competition elicit high levels of inflammatory proteins.
The Woman Playing Hard to Get
That girl who only sometimes answers your texts has to go, too. The study found that vying for a romantic partner's attention had similar negative consequences.
The Yes-Man Who Never Does Anything
Surprisingly, stress can come from pretty small things that add up over time -- like your friend who swears he'll give you that 10 bucks/buy the beer next time/pick you up, but you know he's not going to. If you feel like you're overcompensating in a friendship, you probably are.
So how do you break up with a friend? If you've hit your limit and could care less about salvaging the friendship, let it fade. Scale back emails. Take him out of your call rotation. He'll get the point.
Think there might be hope? Keep the conversation short. If you deliver an uppercut at the start and not the end, you'll be about 35 percent more persuasive
Researchers asked 122 healthy adults to keep a diary of social interactions for 8 days. Their findings? Those with negative social experiences had a higher level of inflammatory proteins that can lead to heart disease, depression, and cancer when compared to than those who noted fewer negative experiences.